Jan. 10th, 2017

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There is a work that states:

Specifically, relationship psychology. It's been demonstrated that there's a particular ratio of positive-to-negative interactions that predict the outcome of relationships: marriages with less than this ratio are far more likely to lead to a divorce. Specifically, 5 to 1.
For example, if there are less than five compliments you give your significant other for every one criticism, then they're more likely to believe that you criticize them more than compliment them. If you have less than 5 good days a week with your SO for every one bad day, then when you think back over your months or years together you're more likely to think that you have an equal amount of bad days than good, or evne more bad days than good.
The mind blowing part is really thinking about that ratio, and what it means about our memory and perspectives. Ideally we'd like to think that if we get complimented about as often as we're criticized, we'd remember a balanced mix of both. But the evidence supports the idea that we really take negative words or events to heart, and that it takes a highly disproportionate amount of positive praise or interactions to balance them out.
Something to keep in mind, when considering both how you feel, and how you treat others.

via Scientists of Reddit, what's a phenomenon in your field that the average person hasn't heard of, that would blow their mind?


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